It is inevitable that we will all delay on almost anything we attempt. And usually this might not hurt us but often times it can and will hurt the chance that might have been there and subsequently gets lost in the delay process. If you do delay, you don’t outright need to lose sight of your goal, but it is often better to get in on what you want to do earlier rather than later or at the last possible moment. What are some reasons not to delay, and to at least make a dent in relay race of the delay where we are parlaying the baton of several reasons into a delay.. The reasons can be countless but it is good to start thinking up reasons not to delay as counterpart reasons to stand up to your own delay tactics.
A first reason is that if you delay, you simply might not get there. The delay can be more or less perpetual with the holding off process becoming normative and the first inclination to delay is considered the correct alternative to situations as this has become the standing norm.
I might end up delaying myself not only out of this time frame but the actual era.
Another reason is I might delay myself right past the time frame I have for this. Opportunities do often occur within time frames and even if these time frames are rather larger than smaller, the ultimate time frame will pass and at best I might find myself scrambling at the last possible hour where previously I had plenty of time to operate with. So with the delay, I really only gave myself less time to operate with, and this in a sense was being unfair to myself as well as the situation as a whole.
Another reason is that the delay mode itself isn’t going to capture what you are trying to capture. If you’re not in the situation, what you might hope to capture is just not going to be there for you. What you want to capture may or may not be there, but you aren’t going to know from the delay. Even if what you are capturing is just a little bit more to what you are ultimately trying to do, then interrupting the delay process and actually proceeding in a small way might be well worthwhile in that it can capture something for you. You want to experience say an exotic trail in a National Park, you have to get out and do it and see for yourself what about this trail does and did capture for you.
Another reason is you ultimately might be trying to do something in a more unrealistic way by so many delays. The corners you are cutting make it a more difficult process the “to go” through, and the delay point blank might mean that I am actually trying to cut corners and oftentimes this just isn't feasible to the situation. I am not going to get ready for a marathon by delaying my training to the few days before the race. It is hard from the position to cut back into good enough shape for the race.
. If I delay talking to the person I have my eye on for a possible meeting or date, then I am going about this rather unrealistically. Actually talking to the person will get me more than not talking to them, not matter what. It is possible that more will go into the negative, but it still would have been better to find that out sooner rather than later. So a question to ask is what can I do to be more realistic about this. And often delaying puts the situation of being unrealistic on the table even more so. The help you want to give yourself is the help to become more realistic about what you are doing.
If I delay going to the gym, I might be less familiar with the equipment, I might have to start at the very beginning of things where even I had gone to the gym intermittently, I would have flow towards what I am doing and I will not be at an actual startup position. To delay also can mean lost. I might actually lose by delaying or the chances are lost. If a friend is visiting from out of state for the first time in years, and I delay on meeting them to their last day in the area, and something comes up, then the delay ultimately causes the opportunity of seeing this long lost friend in person to be lost to sometime years yonder.
Another reason is that the implications for the delay might not be there. I’m implying to myself that these are the reasons for the delay and the implication is that later will be a better time. The reality is that more so you just don’t know as there are so many variables swirling in the currents of life that the implied reasons for the delay may have little or no applicability to what you are trying to do. And then, you can never be sure, even if you return to the scene of what once was, it just isn’t the same and everybody has experienced this. For some reason, we do expect the same people to be there, the same good times maybe, but it just isn’t going to be the same and the timing really was more so for then. .
Another reason against delays is that I might tend to insert actual big time amendments into my delays, such as the idea of getting things up to speed and that leak becomes bigger and then it becomes getting things just about perfect and all of the sudden perfectionist standards have come into what was earlier a relatively simple delay process and the whole of the delay is just a bigger issue than it was previously as the waters of perfection have now rushed in. Not delaying helps us brush back the fires of even higher demands being put on the situations as the delay continues.
The psychology behind this is that the vacuum opened up by the delay leaves room for more to pour in and this might be more demands on the situation. Whereas, if I went forward at least a little bit, that vacuum would be reduced and there would be less room for major themes to go into the delay. And usually these themes aren't helpful in overcoming the delay as they tend to ask for even more. What you want to do with the delay oftentimes is to ask less of yourself and the potential situation rather than more. And then, putting these themes up front goes against going ahead and letting the themes emerge as they will. Emergent themes might often springboard from going forward in some way and then finding the themes.
Another reason is that delays might play too much into an all or nothing process. This either counts for everything or it counts for nothing. I’m basically putting everything on two sides of a fence with barbed wire in between. All or nothing simply might not be appropriate to your interests and your interests can take you here or there. Don’t fence off your interests. And if you do delay, don’t do it in a way that counters your interests but realize that this is how delays can actually work. Fencing off can mean basically putting tenable parameters out there that might have very little support In terms of good reasons for the guideline. And parameters often don’t serve you and tend to have a build up of artificial guidelines that just end up to be invalid excuses. If you are going to use any idea of parameters, you want it to be as close as possible to you and what you are thinking. For that reason, while you can sometimes surmise things from a distance, it is your first hand account and view that is often most telling and what you actually can trust even better than the experts. Don’t defer to the experts to the extent that your own viewpoints get squashed out. Wise advice is always good but first hand investigation is often the way to go if you have any hopes of incorporating this in some way and even if you decide to let it go, it was your own call. Instead of an all or nothing deferral to someone else’s opinion, give your opinion at least some credence and even if you opinion falls flat, you can retreat on it and say hey, it was only an opinion and I was wrong.
You really might not how you are going to fire up with a particular endeveaor and you just have to leave enough slack to say I’ll see how I do or I’ll see how it goes and you can still hold on to your monitoring process as you go along and it is it too much for you or too much trouble than you can discontinue or draw back a bit then. But by not allowing the slack you aren’t giving yourself a chance to see the uplift that might also be there for you if you proceed a bit, albeit with caution maybe.
Another reason is that with an outright delay I am halting any potential for progress. First of all, you don’t want to make the idea of progress your only calling card, because the sun goes up and sets rather quickly during the day and you really want whatever you can get. Ironically, one of the biggest reasons for delays is the search for progress. If I’m always looking for progress, either personally or professionally, that concept alone will get me lost, because from where your standing you often don’t know what is going to progress and what isn’t and what is really a matter of just being present to the moment. Yet we are taught to be good, get going, be motivated and be progressive. Then, because this search for progress becomes so intimidating, I delay to the points where the progress has to be so obvious that the country would stand still for it. The progress would be so earth shattering that they would halt the launch of the space shuttle to tune into it on television. What happens then is we look for this type of progress; delay and then we don’t get any progress at all because of the delay.
Realize that the winds of opportunity might be blowing in so many directions, that I need at certain points to set some sail to something and hopefully I can see some progress but I am not going to see it if I am delaying for the ultimate sail against the still uncertain shorelines of tomorrow.
The metaphor is, no matter what I have going, I am losing daylight on it no matter what and those causeways aren’t getting bigger and wider for me and the road I have been delaying on may not be in fact as easy or as big as it once was.
Another reason for not delaying or at least interrupting the delay process in small ways is that I feel better. I feel better in that I know I am delaying and I can get off that label momentarily by doing something even if I can't find the means to make the bigger leap into what I want, I can still interrupt many outright delays in small ways that will make me feel better. I have just written some pen pal notes, but I feel bad I never talked to them on the phone even once. Just make that one phone call and you will feel relieved just to do that. It is a matter of release. In a small way, I’ve realized myself from the prison of my own delay. Even though this pen pal is thousands of miles away, at least I know that I talked to them once in my lifetime just from this one phone call I’ve surmounted so much.
